I was speaking to my husband yesterday while walking in the yard. It was about how much I’d changed from when he first met me. I don’t think I’ve changed much, but the reality is, I have. I went from how I was expected to believe and be based upon my upbringing to how I define myself today.
I then wondered and pondered how Hubby is still loving me within those changes. I know I say he is the reason for many of those changes, but even so, he is living with me and the changes are apparent to the people who know me personally.
I think, looking at it directly, it is a testament of the ability to change and still have what’s meant to be in my life.
I think, so often, we don’t change because we may wonder how our lives will look on the other side of that change. Will our partner stay with us? Will our children understand our need to do something radically different, even at our advanced age? Will our parents find a way to meet us in some neutral territory from how they’ve always seen us to how we are now living in our personal truth? Shouldn’t my best friend have seen this coming?!
If it’s meant to be within our lives, no matter what changes we feel called to make, it will stay within our lives. If it isn’t meant to be, then something else will fill that now vacant space in a good way.
Just because something was always done a certain way doesn’t mean you can’t do something different and the reason can be just because you want to do it differently this time, from here forward, etc.
You don’t really owe anyone an explanation and while you may have to choose certain words to explain it without getting into a “fuss”, you can do that. Sometimes this requires creating new boundaries as well. Even so, if you don’t do the change, either softly or quickly, you will be doing life as you’ve always done it. If that’s an unhappy feeling for you, it is a sure sign of making changes and just seeing where everything and everyone else will shift accordingly.
Serenity with God 