How are you handling life today?

Have you gotten that 10th psychic reading this month, looking for answers in the way that you want them to be? Do you get upset when the reading says, “Have patience. Take the leap. Do something different.”

Have you gone to several different church web pages these past months, trying to find a church home? Looking for answers as to what’s right so you don’t do anything “wrong”? Trying to clear your conscious?

Either of those things are you looking outside of yourself for the answers. They aren’t necessarily wrong, but they’re simply clues or advice…not direct action. Only YOU can take direct actions within your life.

When I write any of my handwritten HUGS or give a color reading or a card reading, I’m simply giving advice, maybe an observation…and comfort…to encourage you along your path. Like fresh ideas or fresh avenues to consider that weren’t considered before, etc.

In the end, it’s still up to you. It was always up to you. It will always be…up…to…you.

Are you happy with your faith?

Have you ever pondered your faith directly? Some people will go their whole lives with their faith and say they believe in God, but what does that really mean?

I know my faith is a huge part of what makes me “me”. I have other things going on in my life and that’s all well and good, but if I were ever in a situation whereby I could talk about my faith, I can do that. I am sure about my belief in God and the workings of him in my life.

How well is your faith holding up for yourself in your life? I’m not trying to say anything bad about it. I’m asking you to check-in with yourself to see if your faith is strong enough to withstand the winds of outside forces, yet also flexible enough to allow others to create their own life in the way each of them sees appropriate.

Faith itself needs to be cultivated like any other thing important in one’s life. It’s okay to go to church or have fellowship in some other way with like minded people, but how do YOU personally handle and feel about your faith?

Spend some time with this today. See how well it is. Have a nice day.

How have you changed?

I was speaking to my husband yesterday while walking in the yard. It was about how much I’d changed from when he first met me. I don’t think I’ve changed much, but the reality is, I have. I went from how I was expected to believe and be based upon my upbringing to how I define myself today.

I then wondered and pondered how Hubby is still loving me within those changes. I know I say he is the reason for many of those changes, but even so, he is living with me and the changes are apparent to the people who know me personally.

I think, looking at it directly, it is a testament of the ability to change and still have what’s meant to be in my life.

I think, so often, we don’t change because we may wonder how our lives will look on the other side of that change. Will our partner stay with us? Will our children understand our need to do something radically different, even at our advanced age? Will our parents find a way to meet us in some neutral territory from how they’ve always seen us to how we are now living in our personal truth? Shouldn’t my best friend have seen this coming?!

If it’s meant to be within our lives, no matter what changes we feel called to make, it will stay within our lives. If it isn’t meant to be, then something else will fill that now vacant space in a good way.

Just because something was always done a certain way doesn’t mean you can’t do something different and the reason can be just because you want to do it differently this time, from here forward, etc.

You don’t really owe anyone an explanation and while you may have to choose certain words to explain it without getting into a “fuss”, you can do that. Sometimes this requires creating new boundaries as well. Even so, if you don’t do the change, either softly or quickly, you will be doing life as you’ve always done it. If that’s an unhappy feeling for you, it is a sure sign of making changes and just seeing where everything and everyone else will shift accordingly.

What if God’s message is to be KIND?

People follow the bible and all these rules. They seek or are in a religion that speaks to their soul, yet some of them still wonder if they’ll get into Heaven. To this, I don’t really understand, but everyone’s journey is their own to sort out and live, so…there’s that.

What if God’s message is to be kind? God came directly in the old testament and spoke to people about many things, leading as he saw fit. According to the new testament, Jesus came and tried to teach people how to live a one-on-one with God and to be kind.

I am not saying the bible isn’t valid for some people. I am proposing to you, “What if it’s as simple as being kind?”

Everyone is doing their best, including you. Some days, everyone falls short, including you. Me too. I think a little more kindness all the way around is the answer to a lot of prayers.

Handwritten HUGS

When I offer to write your own intuitive message, what does that mean? Well, it means that you would get a snail mail note written with you exclusively in mind. It will usually contain words of comfort, maybe an analogy of some sort to help you shift a prospective to forward, maybe even something amusing to get a smile. It may also reflect something you’ve been thinking on and be a nudge for you to continue on that path.

I’ve written HUGS as God/Spirit led messages and people have written back to say, “I was thinking on doing that very thing you mentioned.” Or, “I needed those words of comfort you wrote. I needed to be reminded to slow down or I’m doing my best.”

This started out as a random nudge to be kind to someone I didn’t know by sending them a letter of prayer and encouragement. That one letter sparked what has now been many years of encouragement on paper, sent to people’s mailbox, giving them that space and comfort when they read the letter, and sometimes the keeping of their letter as a treasure of continued care.

I am always warmed when a friend or person says, “I took out that note to read again and it brought more comfort to me.” This, to me, is a spark of light from God/Spirit sent to stand the test of time. That, in my thinking, is a super awesome gift to give.

If you’d like a note or know of someone to send a note to, please do get with me by contacting on the next page. I’d be happy to put pen to paper for you or a loved one.

Write it Down

I want to encourage you today to write things down, could be everything, could be nothing, but writing things down provides clarity and sometimes insight into things you may have not noticed quite so clearly before.

I am writing a book and, as I put pen to paper last night, realized a sign from God that I didn’t realize up until that very moment.

The book is about the soft signs we get from God, our spiritual helpers, passed over loved ones. As I was writing about a particular happening in my life lately, I realized it was a direct sign from God. I didn’t realize the pattern of it until that moment.

In my personal algorithm, signs from God happen in 3s. This particular sign happened over several months as of late. While I noticed each sign individually as an uplifting my vibes sign, I did not see the pattern until I’d written about it. Then, the pattern clearly presented itself to me and I began to appreciate it even more so for the even deeper sign it was and is.

I have encouraged writing from the beginning and will continue to do so. It doesn’t matter if your handwriting is atrocious or no one else can understand it. It matters that you take thoughts out of your mind to then sort them out with more clarity upon the paper. It will make a difference in some way, yes.

God made you Unique, stand in that Dignity

If you’re not of the God persuasion, substitute as needed, but I am, so we’re going with that.

You are unique, seriously, there isn’t a single other person on the planet that does things exactly like you do. This, to me, is such a magical, marvelous notion. It gives new meaning to the phrase “limited edition”!!

As a child, you were raised with certain beliefs and guidelines as only those around you know and can teach you. For some people, that’s a nurturing environment. For others, not so much. But then, the most amazing thing happened. You grew up and the choices became your own.

What’s also interesting to note is, as a child, when you do something you aren’t supposed to be doing, an adult will tell you. As an adult yourself, that external guidance isn’t there. The guidance becomes much more internal, as your own intuition develops for you.

Even so, society as a whole, now that you’re living “out there” is willing to tell you what the guidelines are. The reality is, the guidelines aren’t nearly the same and there is a lot you can do for yourself without breaking the law.

So, what now? Clothe yourself with “dignity”. You are a unique specimen of wonder and magic. You won’t always get it right, none of us do. You’ll do your best in most days, that’s all anyone can do. You may even get lost a time or two on your journey, it happens.

Regardless of all of the little things, the big thing is that YOU are YOU and that’s worthy of SHINE. So, don’t apologize, no. Don’t play small if you don’t want to, no. Don’t think someone else has got it figured out more so than you, no. You are a marvelous addition to this world and your place in it affects numerous people. Be fabulous in your uniqueness.

Shine it, own it, go forth in divine dignity.

A tack and a balloon

There may be some things you are creating within your life. They may be new, different, out of the ordinary. These things are delicate like a balloon at first. It is best to be mindful of whom you share that balloon with.

You may want to only share that balloon with certain people, not others. Maybe not some people you’ve known your whole life. To those people, you may normally tell them everything about your life as you see them as a vital participant in how things ebb and flow.

I am here to tell you, some of those people, those very people close to you, are also people waiting with a tack to pop that balloon. They have their own personal reasons and those could be one of many.

Maybe they think you don’t deserve that balloon, maybe they think you’re too dumb or too smart for that balloon, maybe they wonder if they’ll fit into your life farther down the line as you see where that balloon will take you, maybe they’re envious that you have a balloon to begin with and they do not. It could be any of these reasons, or others.

That said, you may already know who these people are. Maybe you have simply brushed it off into the thinking of “oh, Aunt Sally is always thinking negative, it’s just how she is.” Okay, that may be true, but, why tell her in the first place? Sometimes it’s best to not share things with people so freely like you once did.

Whatever your balloon of discovery, there’s a reason for it. It may take you a short distance of an idea you decide not to pursue or it may take you to grand places and spaces. Only you can figure that out for yourself. There is also no reason to share it with someone waiting to pounce knowingly.

Shifting this little thing will go a long way towards your own personal strength as an individual. Being mindful of how you share things, who you share them with, and when are all tactics for a richer life with less unnecessary “messy” stuff.

One person’s shadows

There have been some things going on the internet recently about a person’s shadows. Many of those things suggest working through the shadows to then be all light I guess. I don’t really see it that way.

I do think each of us does need to sit with our shadows and admit they’re there. Maybe some people don’t have those things, but some of us do. I know every day can have sunshine and the dark of night will still happen. It is what the universe is. There is no such thing as always sunshine and daisies. There isn’t. To act as if we must achieve that to be our best, in my thinking, isn’t the situation at all.

There are things some of us don’t really share so easily, yes. There are things that can’t be fixed, undone, even entertained, yes. There are things that sometimes show up in some form after being tucked away for years, maybe even decades, yes.

I don’t necessarily think any of these things have to go away. It’s like a skeleton coming out of your closet to visit. Sit with it for some time. Acknowledge whatever it is you need to acknowledge to yourself about this thing, then tell it to leave and go back where it came from, the closet.

Even people who seem to have the perfect life from your view…those same people could be lacking in some way you don’t see. Each of them may have their own skeletons and shadows they keep tucked away. You don’t know, really, you don’t.

What does this mean? Well, I think it means to do your best and it’s okay to say you’ve got broken parts. It’s okay to say you’re still trying to heal over this or that. It’s okay to say your life has changed in a way you are very different now than the you of many years ago. Sometimes that happens too.

I think all each of us can do is our best in every day. Some of those days are sunshine filled vibes that radiate far and wide. Other days are cloudy and murky. Still, some of those days the rains come…and they soak us with memories, hurts, things that can’t be undone. It is all one can do to withstand them and wait for them to pass.

I just wanted to take a moment to acknowledge this. It is a factor in our lives and there’s nothing wrong with admitting these times, feelings, situations.

Go forth in knowing you’re okay…not being perfect is okay…doing your best is all you can do. There may be shadows, yes, but there is always sunshine again, yes. My Dear, know this, trust this, believe in it. May peace be with you.

What about loss and grief?

I think sometimes there may not be an answer to satisfy us. I was watching a show in reference to people loosing their loved ones recently and some of these people don’t know how to get past the grief.

The person who passed had taken up so much of their world that there’s literally a whole chunk of their lives now gone. I think every death within a love circle is a tear of some sort within the fabric of one’s journey. I also think some of those tears are so deep that life as these people know it will not look like it did before. The scars will be run deep and be visible possibly for the remainder of their lives.

I believe, when one passes over, that person may go back “home” to God or the whole collective peace realm or become a stuck ghost. However you see it yourself is perfectly okay. They have moved on in some way.

For the people still here, there is sometimes a feeling of relief, especially if the person was in pain for many years. Other times, it’s a sadness to some degree, from going to miss them to it ripping their life apart as mentioned above.

My response to people now is, “I am sad for your sadness.” It is a loss that can’t be changed, but the sadness will remain…to some degree. For that, I feel an empathy. This person, these people, now have to rework the fabric of their lives going forward. And, as I stated, sometimes that tear is too big to repair neatly.

I’d like to take a moment to explain that I believe love transcends the passing of a body. Love, in my thinking, never dies.

I can still love my grandmother, who made me a potholder as a child because I loved hers and she had heart problems…probably not knowing how long she’d live. She never did live long enough to meet my husband, no. That saddens me when I think on it. She was my favorite person as a child and I love the way she wrote, so pretty and lovely. Every time I do thread crochet, I think of her. She made a doily with a “bunch grapes” pattern. I now know that to be a stitch I probably won’t do. lol I did think, as a person in my 20s, I wouldn’t ever do thread work. Now, I do it often enough to make me happy and bring back the love.

I want you to know I see you. I understand that loss isn’t always repairable. I also want you to know that love transcends and that’s something to hold on to when there’s no longer physical presence.