Love Languages

I was speaking with someone the other day about another person and their personality. The person goes on to say that the topic of conversation wasn’t very nice. I told her that person is nice, just in different ways.

How you show love to someone needs to be thought out and understood. How someone else shows love to you also needs to be thought out and considered. In this way, we can see that there is more love happening around us and in our relationships than we may see because each person loves differently. Because of this difference, we may not recognize the love as it exists.

For example, in this particular situation, the person of topic will defend her family, send thoughtful gifts, and be mindful of someone’s needs. This same person of topic will also argue with her sister while talking because both tend to have strong opinions.

On the one hand, arguing with each other may seem like the person isn’t being kind or the person is clearly being selfish. On the other hand, maybe their personalities aren’t necessarily warmth mixed with caring…instead maybe it’s a little salt and vinegar…when faced with each other, but, individually, each does care for the other and will show love in individual giving ways.

One of my love languages is cooking. I love making a fabulous desert and sharing it. My husband, not being the best of cooks, doesn’t have the love language of cooking. He shows me love in other ways.

My husband likes taking time with his friends and the conversation and company is part of his love language. I like writing letters and checking in by email more so with my friends than daily visiting in person. This is part of my love language.

How do you show love? How does your partner show love? Can you see where someone was being kind to you in their own way and you didn’t, up until now, realize their way of a love language? Do you now have a deeper understanding of what they’re giving you? What you’re giving someone else in your own way as well?

Think on this, feel the deeper feelings behind what is done for you or given to you in love. Explore your own love languages and know these are your own messages of care and concern in some way.

There are many, many love languages…knowing yours and seeing others’ provides a deeper depth to your life worth feeling. Cheers.

Nothing is Wasted

I don’t believe anything is wasted and there’s a silver lining in just about any relationship of any sort one may go through. Either you gain good things out of a relationship and grow or you learn what isn’t working for you and aim for something better going forward.

Maybe you’ve had a friend for years and this friend hasn’t been kind to you. You’ve now come to realize there’s more baggage within that relationship than you’re willing to carry any longer. You struggle between having had this person around for years and it seeming to be easy to keep rolling with the flow of it or deciding the relationship needs to end so that you have more space within your life for something healthier. This is the thought I want to give you, “Treat that relationship as valuable space within your life…because it is taking up space within your life and every aspect is valuable…and decide if you want it to continue as such or if you’d like something new and healthier in that space.”

When I suggest for people to change, they usually come back with, “That isn’t easy.” Sometimes, it isn’t easy, no. If you’d have had a mint plant growing in your garden and you wanted to take it out, this would require you to keep an eye out for new growth several times over the summer because mint is invasive and isn’t so easy to eradicate. Removing something else, like a bush or bulb, is easier as it only takes one to shovel out the main base of the plant for it to be gone. Think on this, it’s a great analogy.

So, what about the silver lining I speak of? Well, what I mean by that is, say you’ve ended a relationship because it wasn’t healthy any longer. You may think to yourself, “All that time wasted…so many years or so many situations or how close you two got…wasted.” I will then say to you, “What’s the silver lining? Did you gain something out of the relationship for a time? Do you now know of something you don’t want in your life and will have a better understanding of what that is so that you can have better in going forward?” These are silver linings. There is, I believe, always something to be gained from whatever you’re going through, even if it’s what “not” to do from this day forward.

Think on this. I hope it’s helped you in some way. You are the creator of your journey…adjust your sails as needed.

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Your choosing and God’s divineness

We have free will and the ability to choose and create our lives in whatever way we see fit. I completely believe this. I also believe God puts divine incidents in place from time to time, either because we’ve asked for them or because we needed that in the bigger picture of our lives.

You may ask me, “April, how do I tell the difference?” Well, here’s how I see it.

After I had graduated from high school, I had a choice to either go visit some relatives in another state for a month or start trade school. I chose trade school over the adventure. I love gaining knew knowledge and there was new knowledge to be gained at the school.

I met my husband at that school, almost from the first day. I believe God sent him upon my path because he’s exactly what I needed. Looking back now, I am what he needed as well. We’re a magnificent fit for each other in the deeper feelings of the soul.

But, let us look at the bigger picture for a moment. I could have chosen to go visit relatives. Maybe I would have met someone there who understands me. Maybe my future husband would have met another girl within that month. Maybe, after going on the trip, then coming back for school, he would have been right there waiting for me as I arrived at a different time, but still have arrived.

He took a series of actions himself to get him to the point of going to that school. His own journey was filled with his very own choices and that’s the course he created.

Even then, in meeting each other, we still had to test compatibility and get to know one another. That took some time as well. It wasn’t until years later that I understood the depth of what we’d become. That is not to say I thought I “settled” on the next person, but it is to say God knew we needed each other and the “why” of us needing each other. It was a match made in divineness.

So, while I’m making choices and he’s making choices, we came upon each other in divineness and made the choice to be together and stuck like glue ever since.

I could throw in other possibilities…such as…. I could have met someone else that would have been a benefit to my life. He could have met someone else who would have been beneficial to his life. I don’t necessarily think there is only the ONE solution as this world is so vast and diverse and filled with many choices of people and situations to encounter. I do think some choices are because of divine intervention for a better life in ways that matter to us and for bigger picture reasons as well.

If I wouldn’t have met my husband, I don’t know that I would have explored the psychic arts. I may not have realized my talents and gifts or even felt okay to use them. My intuition would have been heightened as I was using that in my waitressing career long before I explored those avenues, but the other things, who knows.

This isn’t to say I couldn’t have met someone else who would have given me the tools and knowledge to explore the psychic arts, there are many people in this world and I could have made a friend or found another partner who was one to explore those paths as well, etc. So, I could have ignored the “divineness” put upon my path with my current husband and done something else. I think about that from time to time of how ordinary my life would have been had I either stayed with someone else I dated or found someone else along those lines as opposed to meeting my husband. The possibilities are endless really. Our choices in life are great, how we create and go forward is such a magical, magnificent realm of possibilities. Amazing.

So, in this way, God’s divine intervention allowed for a “best case scenario” of needs from each of us as well as the start of my journey into developing my gifts to today, writing this blog for you.

This is how I see the difference between what we choose and what God divinely puts before us. I hope, in some way, it makes sense. Look at your own life, see how things transpired to get you to this point.

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Intermission for 3 Days

Hello Folks. I am super glad to have you here and am amazed at the presence of each and every one of you. Thank YOU for YOUR presence. I pray for extra blessings for each one of you, something that really puts the cherry on top of the whipped cream.

I am taking these next three days to be with my family. I’ll be back on Sunday. See you then.

How strong are your beliefs?

Do you believe in certain aspects of your life in such a way that you can stand firm in them, like a full grown oak tree? Do you only say you believe certain things, but change your beliefs with the tumbleweed in the wind?

The stronger your beliefs, the stronger your foundation. That said, you’ve also got to have room to bend and move with the wind. By this I mean, trusting yourself and your beliefs is one of the better things you can do for yourself, but don’t stick to your beliefs so strongly that you try to convince another person your thinking is the only thinking to be followed.

Each if us is trying to figure out our own path and what’s the truth for us. In doing that, we may find others who agree with us and understand our way of thinking. We will also find others who will not agree with us at all. It is the way of life and part of the essential cheerleader/contrast that has to happen…for all of eternity really.

By standing on your own beliefs, when someone asks you what you believe, you have something concrete and solid to say. It becomes part of the character of you, your puzzle, the bright and subtle shading of your perspective on life.

Think on this, decide how you’d like to approach 2021. In every day, you have the magic of creating yourself as you see fit. What would you like to create and stand firm in to blossom and grow?

I hope today’s messaged helped you in some way. Feel free to donate to my mission of bringing light into spaces it is lost. http://paypal.me/aprildaisy Also, if you’d like your own personal message, feel free to order one with your name and address (15/16) through that link or by email: aprildaisy4@yahoo.com As always, keep shining, may you have peace and joy on your journey.

Are you living a life of presence?

Are you living your life in the present, sure of how you’re creating things, trusting in divine timing of other things, being a part of the ease of the bigger picture and flow that is your journey?

What this means, in my thinking, is that you’re trusting every single aspect of your life is being taken care of. There should be no real worrying, no real fretting, no real need to feel as if you’re lacking.

If you’re trusting God in your faith and his grace, that means you’re trusting in every single minute of your life and with every breath you take. Have you thought about your life quite like this? Does this thought ease your mind or soul? Do you actually relax enough in this thought to walk gently forward with more self-shine?

Think on this one thought today. It’s powerful and needs a little more processing. Take a few days for it too if you need to. Major shifts can come about from this perspective view.

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How do you measure your faith?

How do you measure your faith? Do you measure it by how often you go to church? Do you read your Bible daily or weekly? Do you take time with God, alone, like Jesus did? Do you think faith is measurable?

I personally know people who go to church regularly and still wonder if they’ll get into Heaven. I don’t understand that thinking. If one is regularly consulting God, having a relationship, believing in the grace to cover and keep them, what is there to then doubt?

Is it to say, “Well, only if I’m worthy?” If you are choosing to have God in your life, doing your best, listening to your inner guidance, that’s worthy.

What if, just think on this, God considered all of his children worthy. What if you’re distancing yourself from grace because of religious expectations, shame, fear, thinking you’re not good enough for whatever reason you come up with?

I don’t see God like that. I see God as Love and in that thinking, it’s about allowing that love into one’s life and trusting it’s an asset to a better life for yourself on your spiritual journey.

It’s like any other relationship in your life. What are you putting into it? What are you getting out of it? Are you taking it for granted or understand the blessing of the win-win that it is? Yes, it takes continued work, everything does, but it doesn’t necessarily contain things like fear or shame or unworthiness. Let go of those feelings right now, shed them, give yourself more love and understanding, especially as you’re doing the best you can.

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Personal God Signs

There are signs for a lot of things in life. I could talk about signs at length, they are that prevalent in life.

We get signs in many different ways. If you don’t necessarily believe in God, you’d still get signs as there are many reasons for that intuitive nudge or intuitive bit of information. I like to think of my signs as being from God though. It’s a completely personal preference.

I was reminded this morning that one of my signs from God is flowers. Flowers have grown in my yard in the oddest of places. It would seem, to the average person, that I may have planted these flowers strategically myself as that’s how they tend to look. However, that’s not the situation at all.

A couple of months ago, in October, morning glories grew on their own in an odd spot of the yard. That is, near to where we’d see them, around a project that got set aside, and nowhere else in the yard at all. Also, I looked it up and found out, as I had thought, that they don’t usually bloom this late in the year. There it was though…a beautiful…healthy…lovely display of purple and green for us to enjoy and, as a sign of goodness from the Divine.

Come to think on it, there’s also a lovely display of some ground cover that’s giving us pink flowers at this time too. The patch has been a small patch that happened on its own every summer, not much, maybe a foot square. This year though, it’s bloomed into something of a 5 foot rectangle of beautiful greenery and pink flowers. I’ve realized this probably doesn’t normally do that either. I went online to ask friends what it was, but no one had a clue. I’d still like to know. I’ll add a picture to this post. If you know, please do message me.

I also want to point out that you can pick a God sign for yourself personally. One that comes up randomly throughout your life, every few days, every few weeks, every month or so, etc. to let you know you’re being looked after.

I noticed a new sign a couple of years back. It was so random and showed up in the oddest of places. I took this particular sign as one that I was being looked after by the Universe, God. Like, it became my “God Sign” and to this day, years later, it still shows up randomly when I least expect it.

I want to encourage you to consider your own “God Sign”. You can either take some time to think on it and see if a sign you’ve already had happen often come up and now realize it’s been consistent and fairly steady in your life. Or you can pick something you’d like to see from this day forward. If you pick something, sort of speak on it like, “My sign from God and being looked after will be THIS.”

Then, every time this sign happens, feel the connection, know the connection is there, and that you’re being looked after in the most Divine of ways.

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God’s Timing

We bought a home last year that we’re still working on to move into. We originally thought we’d move right into it, but we found some issues upon moving it 50 miles. So, we’re doing some work to it a slow bit at a time.

One of the key factors is getting the electrical done. We had asked a couple of friends to help out with the electrical and that didn’t really pan out the way we wanted to. We’ve now found a perfect certified electrician and are simply awaiting the funds to pay him.

While we’re frustrated we aren’t in the house yet, this is clearly God’s timing in this situation. If we would have gotten any friend to do it, it would have been done, but may not have passed inspection up to new codes. Now, with a certified person, the house will be up to current electrical codes. This will give us a safer space and an easy pass of inspection when that time comes.

It’s a win-win on God’s timing and none of pushing or frustrations will make it happen any faster.

Some things we go through life with like this. We’re frustrated in our own ability to not make them happen in the now we’re currently in. I think that’s why we’re supposed to envision and anticipate the coming of certain things and people. Sometimes these take a God timing to them. Sometimes it’s a situation of setting one up for better than they are hopeful for, other times, it’s just not the right season. In any situation, envisioning it and feeling yourself at that arrived space is key.

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God put my husband directly on my path over 30 years ago. I may have mentioned it before on here. He was all blonde hair, blue eyes and waved at me that day. I’ll tell you right now, I wouldn’t have approached him. I somehow thought blondes were on another level I’d not ever be associated with so it wasn’t going to start with me.

That day, he waved. The next day, he came over and talked. We’ve had a few rocky spots and there are still disagreements from time to time, all these years later, but we’re a really great divine fit.

He loves me and encourages me to be me. I didn’t really have choices growing up and am fairly certain my mother would have steered me in another direction if it wasn’t something she liked. It’s one thing to be taught as a child, a whole other thing to be finding oneself as an adult. My husband has been and continues to be my safe space.

In many ways, I am that safe space for him. I love him, am the person who shelters him and envelopes him within that love. His own upbringing was restricted in some ways as well.

Back then I didn’t think to pray to God for a right life partner. I’d had a couple of boyfriends, a guy I really wanted, a few dates, but none of them stuck. I realize, quite often, how blessed I am to have been united with him from so young. Here we are, over 30 years later, still happy to be within each other’s lives, creating, living, BEing together.

My wish for you is that you take moments this holiday season, especially with the way this year has gone, to realize and FEEL your deepest blessings, to acknowledge them, and polish their shine.

Here and now, what you have today that has endured, is a blessing growing with each breath you take.

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