What about loss and grief?

I think sometimes there may not be an answer to satisfy us. I was watching a show in reference to people loosing their loved ones recently and some of these people don’t know how to get past the grief.

The person who passed had taken up so much of their world that there’s literally a whole chunk of their lives now gone. I think every death within a love circle is a tear of some sort within the fabric of one’s journey. I also think some of those tears are so deep that life as these people know it will not look like it did before. The scars will be run deep and be visible possibly for the remainder of their lives.

I believe, when one passes over, that person may go back “home” to God or the whole collective peace realm or become a stuck ghost. However you see it yourself is perfectly okay. They have moved on in some way.

For the people still here, there is sometimes a feeling of relief, especially if the person was in pain for many years. Other times, it’s a sadness to some degree, from going to miss them to it ripping their life apart as mentioned above.

My response to people now is, “I am sad for your sadness.” It is a loss that can’t be changed, but the sadness will remain…to some degree. For that, I feel an empathy. This person, these people, now have to rework the fabric of their lives going forward. And, as I stated, sometimes that tear is too big to repair neatly.

I’d like to take a moment to explain that I believe love transcends the passing of a body. Love, in my thinking, never dies.

I can still love my grandmother, who made me a potholder as a child because I loved hers and she had heart problems…probably not knowing how long she’d live. She never did live long enough to meet my husband, no. That saddens me when I think on it. She was my favorite person as a child and I love the way she wrote, so pretty and lovely. Every time I do thread crochet, I think of her. She made a doily with a “bunch grapes” pattern. I now know that to be a stitch I probably won’t do. lol I did think, as a person in my 20s, I wouldn’t ever do thread work. Now, I do it often enough to make me happy and bring back the love.

I want you to know I see you. I understand that loss isn’t always repairable. I also want you to know that love transcends and that’s something to hold on to when there’s no longer physical presence.

Love Languages

I was speaking with someone the other day about another person and their personality. The person goes on to say that the topic of conversation wasn’t very nice. I told her that person is nice, just in different ways.

How you show love to someone needs to be thought out and understood. How someone else shows love to you also needs to be thought out and considered. In this way, we can see that there is more love happening around us and in our relationships than we may see because each person loves differently. Because of this difference, we may not recognize the love as it exists.

For example, in this particular situation, the person of topic will defend her family, send thoughtful gifts, and be mindful of someone’s needs. This same person of topic will also argue with her sister while talking because both tend to have strong opinions.

On the one hand, arguing with each other may seem like the person isn’t being kind or the person is clearly being selfish. On the other hand, maybe their personalities aren’t necessarily warmth mixed with caring…instead maybe it’s a little salt and vinegar…when faced with each other, but, individually, each does care for the other and will show love in individual giving ways.

One of my love languages is cooking. I love making a fabulous desert and sharing it. My husband, not being the best of cooks, doesn’t have the love language of cooking. He shows me love in other ways.

My husband likes taking time with his friends and the conversation and company is part of his love language. I like writing letters and checking in by email more so with my friends than daily visiting in person. This is part of my love language.

How do you show love? How does your partner show love? Can you see where someone was being kind to you in their own way and you didn’t, up until now, realize their way of a love language? Do you now have a deeper understanding of what they’re giving you? What you’re giving someone else in your own way as well?

Think on this, feel the deeper feelings behind what is done for you or given to you in love. Explore your own love languages and know these are your own messages of care and concern in some way.

There are many, many love languages…knowing yours and seeing others’ provides a deeper depth to your life worth feeling. Cheers.

God put my husband directly on my path over 30 years ago. I may have mentioned it before on here. He was all blonde hair, blue eyes and waved at me that day. I’ll tell you right now, I wouldn’t have approached him. I somehow thought blondes were on another level I’d not ever be associated with so it wasn’t going to start with me.

That day, he waved. The next day, he came over and talked. We’ve had a few rocky spots and there are still disagreements from time to time, all these years later, but we’re a really great divine fit.

He loves me and encourages me to be me. I didn’t really have choices growing up and am fairly certain my mother would have steered me in another direction if it wasn’t something she liked. It’s one thing to be taught as a child, a whole other thing to be finding oneself as an adult. My husband has been and continues to be my safe space.

In many ways, I am that safe space for him. I love him, am the person who shelters him and envelopes him within that love. His own upbringing was restricted in some ways as well.

Back then I didn’t think to pray to God for a right life partner. I’d had a couple of boyfriends, a guy I really wanted, a few dates, but none of them stuck. I realize, quite often, how blessed I am to have been united with him from so young. Here we are, over 30 years later, still happy to be within each other’s lives, creating, living, BEing together.

My wish for you is that you take moments this holiday season, especially with the way this year has gone, to realize and FEEL your deepest blessings, to acknowledge them, and polish their shine.

Here and now, what you have today that has endured, is a blessing growing with each breath you take.

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Make Lists

I want to encourage you to make lists. One set of lists should definitely be for the holidays ahead. Things you really want to accomplish, things that will be okay if they don’t get accomplished, and a reminder of where you stashed all of the holiday gifts. lol

Another set of lists are to make note of something that’s bothering you. I have a situation that’s coming up and some of it bothers me because I thought things would be easier by now with those things or in a better way whereby it would seem I have more of my life all sorted out.

However, that particular situation isn’t that way at all. Some things still aren’t fixed. My life, in general, from the outside, still looks like it’s barely held together by duct tape, and that’s just the nature of things as they go at the moment.

I had to look past the surface of it though. There are good soul things happening in this situation and love, lots of love, between people who care about each other. That will be the theme of the situation.

So, write a list of what troubles you about a situation, then write a list of what’s good in the situation and keep the good list closer to your heart.

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Sometimes Faith Falters

I am here to post about faith building, having a great one-on-one with God, and encouraging your individual path doing the best you can. Most of my posts here, or anywhere, you will find that.

However, sometimes faith falters. It’s like hitting a pothole on the highway or walking into a hole in the lawn that the dog made. Just when you think you’re doing well and sort of proud of yourself, a dip happens.

Sometimes when this dip happens you’re able to recover quickly. In the situation of walking on your lawn, your body adjusts itself and it’s almost as if you didn’t even have a misstep. Other times, you actually trip and fall as a result of the hole you didn’t see. You may even sprain your ankle, break that ankle, or even cry because you are now in this position.

I think faith is like this on occasion. Sometimes we falter and cry, wondering how come we aren’t where we’d like to be in life…for one reason or another or one way or another. I think it’s perfectly okay to cry, to feel a bit adrift, to wonder if one’s faith is strong enough, to take the time to think on how far one has come, how far one has to go, to get to where one journeys to. I think this is especially true if you think you’re trying your best.

I know, for me, there are times I falter. I wonder why I haven’t gotten to some sort of stability in ways I have been aiming for in some aspects of my life. I take that time out and cry. I did it last night and this morning. At the end, I then go back to my grounded self and hold my faith close. No matter how rough the hole or the situation, my faith has always been there and will continue to be so.

I hope, any time you falter, you cry if you need to, but then you get up, dust yourself off, and keep going. Believe in yourself, in the life you’re creating, and feeling yourself get there. 🙂 Sometimes the journey is longer than expected, but I believe the destination we strive for is attainable, if not, it will be something even better for us because that’s the way of divine grace.

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What does love look like?

When I was little, about 9 or 10, I saw a crocheted hot pad hanging in my grandmother’s kitchen. I liked it so much, I told my grandmother so. She proceeded to make one just for me. To this day, I still have that hot pad. She’s been passed over now for over 30 years. That hot pad is one of my favorite things. It holds love for me within the threads.

Yesterday I was working in the yard with my family. I got stabbed by a Century plant while replanting it. The result wasn’t pretty as I bled quite a lot from such a little needle. My youngest child bandaged me up and looked me over. Later, I cooked homemade pizza and sliced my finger really bad on a potato peeler. My youngest tended to that wound as well. She then diagnosed me and told me to relax and not use that thumb for the remainder of the evening.

My husband making me a cup of coffee while I tended to supper. That was nice for me.

Checking-in with your partner or child or dear friend directly, such as, “How are you? I am checking-in.” This goes a long way in some of the most surprising ways and even when you may least expect it or think the person may not even need your care.

I love writing my handwritten HUGS. The response is most of the time one whereby the person feels loved, comforted, and cared for. That’s always my aim. Sometimes they even cry. I’ve got a friend I do the “checking-in” on from time to time. She’s not a soft cookie by any means, but recently I messaged her and said, “Hey, someone paid for some HUGS for me to gift, would you like one?” She then says, “Your timing, as always is perfect. Yes, thank you.” She needed that love and it wouldn’t have seemed obvious in any way other than a direct ask from me.

I have been present and participated in what I call “God love” towards other people. What seemed like regular conversations turned into mini intuitive messages that totally hit the spot they weren’t showing, but really needed comfort in. I’ve done this more times than I can count. The first time I did it, it seemed odd and I felt so disoriented for me to know things I wasn’t supposed to know. Now, I’ve come to not take anything for granted when conversing with anyone, especially strangers. I know when a conversation goes from random chit-chat to hitting something deep by the change across their face. Then, I feel like I am smack in the middle of a God moment.

Love is knowing what’s important to the people you care about. To acknowledge these important things. To even become a cheerleader for them when the situation arises.

Love is having a pop quiz with your child about a movie you’d seen together previously. I didn’t succeed much with the Grinch, but excelled at the Lorax as I really like that one. lol

I think love with God is you doing your best and asking for his assistance when needed. I know, for me, one of the God things in my life is flowers. While growing things isn’t one of my strongest points, God has a tendency to grow flowers for me in the oddest of places and at the oddest of times.

The most recent flower happening for me was morning glories growing and blooming nicely just over a week ago. The first coolness here killed them off. Even so, morning glories growing and blooming in the end of November isn’t it’s usual season. There it was though and not in just any place in the yard, but nearer to where I’d see them rather than a bushy wild area that isn’t cleared yet.

Think on the love in your life, how you give it, how you receive it, and the importance of band-aids.

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Life and Time

I think about the life we have and the time we have in it. It doesn’t matter if you believe you’ve only got this one life or you think you’ve come here many times…to then come back another day. Do you know why? Because that’s kind of not relevant in the today that you’re living.

What are you doing with the time you’ve got today? Are you taking care of yourself? Are you showing love to those you have claimed to love? Are you being kind for kindness sake?

In a way, knowing time is passing by can make us impatient. Some of us don’t necessarily want to find ourselves in a long line at the grocery store and others want to be in that perfect relationship already.

Even so, how do you view time? Do you look back on your childhood, maybe one of not much kindness. Do you look back at that first marriage, thankful you’re no longer in it.

Time is really how you’re living in the moments you’re in. On the one hand, you can say, “Okay, that household chore can wait until tomorrow.” On the other hand, I hold my young one extra tight at night to give as much love to her as I can in that moment, knowing one day I won’t be here.

While I’m always speaking on individuality and shining one’s best self, I think time…time itself…may very well trump it. How are you spending your time?

I will post more on this. I hope you enjoyed this message. Please feel free to donate: http://paypal.me/aprildaisy

So, your blessing arrives and….

So, your blessing arrives and it is nothing like what you were trying to create; however, it is much better than what you had in mind! How about them apples?!

That said, what about what you were trying to create? What about the money you spent? What about the classes you took? Is it all for nothing? Does regret want to sneak in? Do you feel as if you’ve wasted something?

This very thing is happening to me right now. My husband and I spent so much money attempting to redo a very old family house. We’re talking in the 10s of thousands of dollars so far sunk into it, along with our own personal sweat and tears.

Then, something awesome came along, the perfect home for us. You may be asking why were we even looking at something else while we were clearly working on the original idea. Well, some of it is that we discovered the original idea would take a great deal more money to finish and another bit of it was simply to consider another option.

So, along came this better option and we’re going in that direction. How do we know it’s the right direction? There were LOTS of signs pointing to this home for us. From the first phone call I made to the woman selling it to the walk-through we made shortly thereafter, and everything in between…connections were being made.

Okay, so, back to the original thought…what about all of the money we put into the older family house? Well, regret could happen, crying could happen, feeling wasteful or sad could happen…but…where would that get me in today? Will regretting putting money into the older house change the fact that we did that and tried that route? Will crying because we just couldn’t make that happen make me feel better today? No, none of that.

The truth is, today is a day we came across something that is working in our favor about where we’re to live. This is now a clear direction in which to go and whatever else we tried before this moment was okay in THAT moment. We will now go forward with a home, one we’ll actually live in, and be at peace with how the path went for us.

I hope you can find something in these words to see a perspective in your own life so that you will let go of regret and upset by things you can’t change like that, but to accept the new path and go forward knowing your life will become better by this clear divine direction.

God in the Cards – Cards for Sale

Okay, so, I have been playing around with this little deck (poker sized cards) and it’s amazing! I’ve given one card pulls several different times to people and it’s been spot on every single time. I’m amazed!! I want to encourage you, if you are looking for a way to deepen your faith or seek guidance from God in an unconventional, intuitive way, to buy these cards.

You could do a daily or weekly pull, journal about it, simply be more alert to the message in your day, or any way you feel led to use them, but they are an awesome tool for being helpful.

Here’s a direct link to the buy page for you. https://www.makeplayingcards.com/sell/marketplace/god-in-the-cards-april-daisy.html

What if the good growth scares you?

I’ve got some things going on in my life that are in the developing stages. One step has to happen before the next step, etc. This is actually a good thing for me as changes tend to unsettle me…like digging dirt that’s been minding it’s own business so as to plant something beautiful or helpful there.

That said, change hasn’t always been my best vibe. Maybe some people love reinventing themselves. Maybe others can change their vibe to be sassy one minute, serious the next. Maybe I am overthinking this too. I am probably overthinking it.

So, I am excited and happy with these new changes, even as I am freaking out about them. I am looking forward to this new thing, that new thing. I figure if I’m going through this, there are clear signs these things should be happening right now, then I remind myself that I will also be equipped in anything I need along the way and thereafter.

Are you going through some good changes you’ve wanted? Are you going through some changes you didn’t expect? Do you feel intrigued by the possibilities? Would you rather hide away for a time to ponder, then adjust? Are you like the kid who didn’t want to do something your parent asked you to…kicking and screaming the whole time…then, when you get there, you’re thrilled at what’s going on?!

I believe that I am equipped, even when there are changes I may or may not be aware of, and that means I am okay. I believe the changes will uplevel my life in ways that bring blessings into my life and also a new ease. I believe the changes will also benefit others in some way.

On one of the changes, I wondered what the benefit of it would be. I was told in Spirit that there are people needing what I’m about to offer. It doesn’t get clearer than that. Life has changes from time to time. It’s okay to be fearful, it’s also okay to walk gently forward, whatever brought you here, has brought you into something beautiful, blessed, blissful.